Social Acceptance

What Makes Us Socially Accepted

First thing about being socially accepted is being transparent, authentic, friendly, talking about them more than us however, it is more than that. What makes people socially accepted is being seen by others and being seen means being open to public.

Being open is not just about showing up, it is about self acceptance of our imperfections and allowing people to see them. Acceptance of our imperfections and embracing them makes us vulnerable. 

While surfing the internet, I came across an article entitled: Social Acceptance and Rejection: The Sweet and the Bitter. I think it would help me a lot in doing my research about Social Acceptance.

"We should assume that everyone is going to experience rejection on a semi-regular basis throughout their life." DeWall says.

One rejection can make people loose their self-confidence and has the tendency to shut down. Losing self-confidence tells people that we're not yet prepared to accept our imperfections that lead us to hide them.

Admit it, we all feel the insecurities of that rejection and sometimes we see that maybe they were right. Other times the pain of the rejection takes the best out of us that we are unable to get over of the shame of being rejected and continues  blaming ourselves. 

We always need blame to feel the rejection. Brene Brown said that blame rids us of discomfort. I think it goes a little further as it not only allows us to get rid of discomfort, it allows us to communicate and be seen  once again.

 We always find a way to hide the shame which creates the feeling of being rejected by finding people to help us overcome the blame. Sometimes, we are unable to admit to it because the shame becomes too overwhelming.

We hear advice on how to use social media everyday to help us grow our business. There are success stories but why isn't there a story telling us that someone did not make it? Why? Shame. If we'll tell an interviewer, during a job interview, that we failed so many times in our life do think you we will be accepted? I don't think so. 

No person would hire a failure, and no person would even want to be one. That makes us focus much on social acceptance.