Socially Accepted Behaviour

Yesterday we had an activity in one of my Marketing class. The professor divided the class into five groups, composed of seven members each. We are then asked to assign the positions to each of the members and divide the tasks.

In the middle of the activity one of my group mate,the leader , asked our opinion about a certain scenario where in we are asked to solve a given problem. He then asked everyone to give suggestions or ideas on how to solve the said problem. We take turns on saying what we think will be the right way of approaching the problem while our leader listens and gives reactions to our suggestions.

 While I was giving my suggestion, without him hearing my whole idea, the leader suddenly interrupted and disagreed with my idea. I got mad when he did that because he should have just listen to me or at least let me finish my suggestion. I felt like I was rejected big time. 

The professor said that each group shall pass at least three suggestions and he will be the one to choose which among the suggestions is the best. Our leader wrote four suggestions, he included mine. The professor announced the top five suggestions, one each group, that he has chosen. Guess what, my suggestion was one of the chosen.

Being judgmental sometimes does not help on social relationship. The tendency is that the person will judge another by just merely looking at him. The person being looked at will not have the chance to defend his side because he was already judged by his looks. Rejection already took place even before acceptance.

While I was trying to add something in my blog, I came across an article entitled Clarington defines socially acceptable behaviour. by Tara Hatherly. It mainly talks about the do's and the don'ts to be socially accepted.

It was said there that The bylaw dictates that when in public, Clarington residents are expected to refrain from begging, urinating, vomiting, defecating, spitting, fighting, screaming, shouting, abusive or offensive communication and damaging or destroying public or private property, including knocking over, defacing or removing mailboxes, newspaper boxes, street signs, garbage containers and utility poles.

Based on my understandings, the authorities wants their people to behave accordingly to what is known to be socially acceptable when they are in public. 

But why do people need to be socially acceptable? Will that help them in their personal life? Studies shows that people who are socially accepted tend to be more happy and more productive than those people who always feel rejection.

Social relationship, according to Abraham Maslow, is one of our basic needs in order for us to survive. Acceptance really helps a lot in social relationships. It is the first step in creating a personal relationship to others. 

It takes two to build a friendship but needs only one to brake it.